Is it the parents responsibilty or the Governments for underage teenagers having sex?

Who is it to blame for underage teenagers having sex? The parents or the Government?

I find it amazing when parents blame the Government for anything their kids do wrong.

If their children fail in school, drink, take drugs, have sex, get pregnant, get into trouble with the law, miss school and so many other things, it is somehow the Governments fault.

Are we living in a society where all we care about and do is have children and leave the rest for the world to take care of?

I was shocked to find out what kids in school do these days. A very close friend of mine who is a teacher in a school told me how she has caught kids young as 10 and 13 having sex in the school playing fields. She caught two boys and a girl having sex in the bushes, and was so disturbed that, she didnt know what to do or say. As for the kids, they didn't care or look worried at all.
She eventually told the kids parents on a parents evening. But I wonder how these kids came to know about threesome or group sex?

But my question is, what did the parents of those kids do to make sure their kids would not do something like this again, if they did anything at all?

We hear so many stories about young teenage girls getting pregnant or having abortions. But that is just half the story. There are so many incidents like this that, we never hear about.

The same friend of mine also told me about a mother of a girl coming to see her on a parents evening and just crying to her. She was crying because she had to assist her daughter to have an abortion. The girl was only 12, and the girls mother wasn't too sure about telling the father. Why not?

So who is it to blame? Is it the Government and the schools to blame because they are teaching sex education too early in school? In my opinion, teaching children about sex or safe sex at such a young age is telling them to have sex, and that it is ok to do that as long as they use contraceptives.

We shouldn't forget as we have all been there, teenagers try to act like an adult and want be like an adult. They want to do what we do, and will go to any extreme to achieve that.

There are so many things that we do wrong or the Government that is harming our children. To list a few, below are some of the things I believe the Government of our countries are doing wrong:

• Movies showing sex scenes, drug abuse, killing, crime are now rated 12 and 15.
• Computer games that involve a lot of violance, or are like real life crimes availabe freely.
• TV programmes, posters, tv commercials all advertising sex, nudity, cigarettes.
• Porn sites easily accessible, chat rooms and my favourite cell/mobile phone internet.

I will leave you to decide how you think some of the above things can damage our childrens future or the way they think.

I have to say, kids nowadays are under a lot of pressure to keep up with the demands of their friends and find themselves competing all the time. It is suppose to be cool to have a girlfriend or boyfriend or to smoke and take drugs. It is because their favourite actor or singer is doing it. To these kids, this is the only way to fame.

But does this mean it is the Government and the teachers in the schools of our children to blame? I don't think so, and I strongly believe that it is us, the parents of every child who end up doing these things to blame. We are so busy in life that we do not have time to see what our children are getting up to. We don't check to see if our kids have gone where they said they would and what they are actually doing.

Where I live I often see groups of teenagers hanging around parks and on the streets with alcholic drinks, smoking and causing trouble. It always made me wonder, how and why the parents of those kids never seem to smell the smoke or the alcohol on their kids when they go home? And if they do, why do they not do anything about it? It always seems to be the same group of kids I see and maybe new members. Why is it that the parents are not out searching for their kids when it hits midnight? Are they not worried about their kids safety or do they just not care. It is so funny, but I can gurantee you, the parents of these kids expect the police to keep an eye on their kids and would blame the supermarkets and shops for selling their kids alcohol. Do they not think to themselves for once that, maybe these kids are using someone the legal age to buy drinks for them?

The drinking and drugs lead to sex, then pregnancy, leading to abortions or a teenager with a child.

So how can they control their kids from buying alcohol? Maybe by limiting their pocket money, or at least keeping an account of what their kids are spending their money on. Which would then probably stop them from trying to show off and do things they shouldn't be. Maybe we all need to control to a ceratin age what we allow them to do or watch. Maybe by limiting them as to how long they can be out with their friends and asking them questions when they arrive home if something is suspicious.

I believe if we get a bit more involved in our childrens lives and force the Government to take appropriate actions for what they are doing wrong, we can prevent and improve the lives of our children.

I believe if something is yours, then it is your responsibilty, and people around you can only help and be blamed for so much. Ultimatley it is our responsibility.

I would be very interested to hear what your opinions are, so please leave your comments below.